{"id":26778,"date":"2025-01-21T14:48:15","date_gmt":"2025-01-21T19:48:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/?p=26778"},"modified":"2025-03-18T14:50:04","modified_gmt":"2025-03-18T18:50:04","slug":"mesothelioma-caregiver-story-christian-kidd","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/blog\/mesothelioma-caregiver-story-christian-kidd\/","title":{"rendered":"Mesothelioma Changed Our Lives, But Not Our Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A Houston-based musician fell hard for his now-wife, then had his heart broken by a devastating diagnosis. Today, even mesothelioma can\u2019t stop this love story.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>Christian and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/blog\/alexis-kidd-surviving-mesothelioma\/\">Alexis Kidd<\/a> have the kind of unbreakable bond that most people dream of. Their story started when Alexis asked Christian for help with her scooter and unfolded over 20 years as they weathered difficulties and experienced profound joy together.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cWhen my sweetheart and I first met, it really was a dream come true. I was smitten by her beautiful smile and conversation. We took it slow. We had our first conversations talking on Sunday evenings.\u201d<br \/>\n<strong>\u2013 Christian Kidd<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>One major challenge came in the summer of 2007 when Alexis was diagnosed with <a href=\"\/mesothelioma\/\">mesothelioma<\/a> at just 37 years old. At that time, she and Christian had been together less than a year.<\/p>\n<p>Mesothelioma is incredibly rare \u2014 especially in younger women. Neither Alexis nor her doctors had any idea how she was exposed to <a href=\"\/asbestos\/\">asbestos<\/a> (the only known cause of this cancer). Still, she bravely fought mesothelioma with Christian by her side and is now a long-term survivor.<\/p>\n<p>In his own words below, Christian shares his experience navigating Alexis\u2019s unexpected diagnosis, the challenges and questions that came from it, and how he would do anything he could to support the love of his life.<\/p>\n<h2>Discovering the Unthinkable<\/h2>\n<p>Within our first year together, Alexis woke up in the middle of the night with pain in her side. She decided to try to sleep it off, but at 6 a.m., she agreed to go to the hospital. I offered to call an ambulance to get her there quickly and safely, but she declined \u2014 suggesting that she ride on the back of my scooter. So off we went.<\/p>\n<p>After a few hours of waiting, I was called into an office. The doctors didn\u2019t have an immediate <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/mesothelioma\/diagnosis\/\">diagnosis<\/a> and kept Alexis for additional monitoring. I visited her every day until, eventually, she was released with an appointment scheduled a few days later.<\/p>\n<div class=\"callout-shortcode\"><style type=\"text\/css\">.callout-shortcode{background:#EDF8F9;border-radius:0 10px 10px 0;padding:20px 20px 20px 24px;margin:40px 0;max-width:860px;position:relative}.callout-shortcode:before{content:\" \";position:absolute;top:0;bottom:0;width:4px;height:100%;left:0;background:linear-gradient(180deg, #0FAEBF 0%, #EDF8F9 100%)}.callout-shortcode .callout-shortcode-heading{color:#100134;font-size:22px;display:block;margin:0 0 15px}.callout-shortcode:first-child{margin-top:0}.callout-shortcode:last-child{margin-bottom:0}.callout-shortcode .img-wrap{margin-bottom:20px}.callout-shortcode.hope>strong{padding-top:17px;padding-bottom:15px;padding-left:74px}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap{left:22px;position:absolute;top:20px;width:59px}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap:before{background:#fff url(\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/mh-icon-65.png);background-position:center;background-repeat:no-repeat;background-size:70%;border-radius:30px;bottom:-10px;content:\"\";display:block;height:30px;position:absolute;right:-10px;width:30px}@media screen and (min-width: 768px){.callout-shortcode{padding:25px 25px 25px 34px}.callout-shortcode .callout-shortcode-heading{font-size:24px}.callout-shortcode .img-wrap{margin-bottom:0}.callout-shortcode.has-img{min-height:170px;padding-left:175px}.callout-shortcode.has-img .img-wrap{position:absolute;left:29px;top:25px;width:119px}.callout-shortcode.hope.has-img{padding-left:170px}.callout-shortcode.hope>strong{padding:0}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap{width:109px}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap:before{background-size:66%;bottom:-15px;height:42px;width:42px}}<\/style><div class=\"content\"><p>During her follow-up appointment, the doctor said he didn\u2019t want to make the wrong diagnosis and had sent the biopsy out to several other hospitals for a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/mesothelioma\/diagnosis\/second-opinion\/\">second opinion<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<p>At her next appointment, the doctor said he noticed some objects that looked like rice on the outside of her diaphragm and lung. <strong>This time it was diagnosed as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/mesothelioma\/peritoneal\/\">peritoneal mesothelioma<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Learn more about how Christian, Alexis, and other patients and families navigated life with this cancer in our <strong>Free Mesothelioma Survivors Guide<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<h2>Facing the Challenges Together<\/h2>\n<p>After we received Alexis\u2019s diagnosis, the search for a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/treatment\/doctors\/\">mesothelioma specialist<\/a> was on. The first hospital we met with decided not to take her case \u2014 they felt it was too dire. Apparently, they thought she should just sit out the situation because she wouldn\u2019t survive it.<\/p>\n<p>Through no fault of her own, Alexis lost her job and with it, her health insurance. We then had to deal with hospitals and doctors who wouldn\u2019t agree to see her because <strong>she had no health insurance<\/strong>. Our attempt to get health insurance was rejected \u2014 she was denied because of having a pre-existing condition.<\/p>\n<div class=\"callout-shortcode\"><style type=\"text\/css\">.callout-shortcode{background:#EDF8F9;border-radius:0 10px 10px 0;padding:20px 20px 20px 24px;margin:40px 0;max-width:860px;position:relative}.callout-shortcode:before{content:\" \";position:absolute;top:0;bottom:0;width:4px;height:100%;left:0;background:linear-gradient(180deg, #0FAEBF 0%, #EDF8F9 100%)}.callout-shortcode .callout-shortcode-heading{color:#100134;font-size:22px;display:block;margin:0 0 15px}.callout-shortcode:first-child{margin-top:0}.callout-shortcode:last-child{margin-bottom:0}.callout-shortcode .img-wrap{margin-bottom:20px}.callout-shortcode.hope>strong{padding-top:17px;padding-bottom:15px;padding-left:74px}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap{left:22px;position:absolute;top:20px;width:59px}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap:before{background:#fff url(\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/mh-icon-65.png);background-position:center;background-repeat:no-repeat;background-size:70%;border-radius:30px;bottom:-10px;content:\"\";display:block;height:30px;position:absolute;right:-10px;width:30px}@media screen and (min-width: 768px){.callout-shortcode{padding:25px 25px 25px 34px}.callout-shortcode .callout-shortcode-heading{font-size:24px}.callout-shortcode .img-wrap{margin-bottom:0}.callout-shortcode.has-img{min-height:170px;padding-left:175px}.callout-shortcode.has-img .img-wrap{position:absolute;left:29px;top:25px;width:119px}.callout-shortcode.hope.has-img{padding-left:170px}.callout-shortcode.hope>strong{padding:0}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap{width:109px}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap:before{background-size:66%;bottom:-15px;height:42px;width:42px}}<\/style><div class=\"content\"><p>If you have also had a doctor turn you away, or you want to find the best specialist for your case, we can help. Our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/get-matched\/\"><strong>Free Doctor Match service<\/strong><\/a> will connect you with a mesothelioma specialist and help ensure you get the care you deserve.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<p>Eventually, we found hope through Dr. Henry Zaleski, an oncologist at <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/cancer-centers\/baylor-lung-institute\/\">Baylor St. Luke&#8217;s Medical Center<\/a> in Houston. He even agreed to have us on a payment plan since Alexis didn\u2019t have health insurance.<\/p>\n<h3>Juggling the Financial Stress<\/h3>\n<p>Alexis had a portion of her diaphragm and lower lung on the right side removed. To this day, she still feels pain from the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/treatment\/surgery\/\">surgery<\/a>. She underwent months of chemotherapy and suffered through post-operative psychosis. It was rough watching her suffer, especially when we had so many great things planned. <strong>But at least we were together<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Months after being diagnosed with mesothelioma, Alexis became very ill at work. A coworker drove her to the hospital, where she was diagnosed with heart arrhythmia. Later, the diagnoses grew to include thyroid cancer and Bell\u2019s palsy. It was becoming a juggling act for us in more ways than one.<\/p>\n<p>I tried creating a GoFundMe page to help pay for our mounting medical expenses. I also contacted a bar and scheduled a fundraiser.<\/p>\n<div class=\"simple-cta border\"><div><style type=\"text\/css\">.simple-cta{margin:30px 0;position:relative}.simple-cta:before{content:\" \";position:absolute;top:0;bottom:0;width:4px;height:100%;left:0;background:linear-gradient(180deg, #0FAEBF 0%, #fff 100%)}.simple-cta>div{width:100%}.simple-cta.border>div{padding:0 0 0 24px}.simple-cta.solid:before{background:linear-gradient(180deg, #0FAEBF 0%, #EDF8F9 100%)}.simple-cta.solid>div{background:#EDF8F9;border-radius:0 10px 10px 0;padding:20px 20px 20px 24px}.simple-cta:first-child{margin-top:0}.simple-cta:last-child{margin-bottom:0}.simple-cta .heading{display:block;margin-bottom:5px}.simple-cta a[href*=\"tel\"]{display:inline-block}@media screen and (min-width: 768px){.simple-cta{text-align:center}.simple-cta>div{display:inline-block;margin:0 auto;text-align:left}}<\/style><p>No mesothelioma patient should struggle to afford the care they need. You deserve treatment, even if you don\u2019t have health insurance or can\u2019t find a doctor. 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I proposed to her, and she accepted.<\/p>\n<p>I entered a competition, complete with multiple essays, for an organization called Wish Upon A Wedding. I was then notified that I\u2019d won \u2014 the organizers were awarding us a free wedding. I showed the letter to Alexis, who was brought to tears.<\/p>\n<p>We set a date for the wedding, then spent the next few months meeting with vendors that were donating their services for us: a printer, a florist, a caterer, a videographer, and a baker.<\/p>\n<div class=\"callout-shortcode\"><style type=\"text\/css\">.callout-shortcode{background:#EDF8F9;border-radius:0 10px 10px 0;padding:20px 20px 20px 24px;margin:40px 0;max-width:860px;position:relative}.callout-shortcode:before{content:\" \";position:absolute;top:0;bottom:0;width:4px;height:100%;left:0;background:linear-gradient(180deg, #0FAEBF 0%, #EDF8F9 100%)}.callout-shortcode .callout-shortcode-heading{color:#100134;font-size:22px;display:block;margin:0 0 15px}.callout-shortcode:first-child{margin-top:0}.callout-shortcode:last-child{margin-bottom:0}.callout-shortcode .img-wrap{margin-bottom:20px}.callout-shortcode.hope>strong{padding-top:17px;padding-bottom:15px;padding-left:74px}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap{left:22px;position:absolute;top:20px;width:59px}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap:before{background:#fff url(\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/mh-icon-65.png);background-position:center;background-repeat:no-repeat;background-size:70%;border-radius:30px;bottom:-10px;content:\"\";display:block;height:30px;position:absolute;right:-10px;width:30px}@media screen and (min-width: 768px){.callout-shortcode{padding:25px 25px 25px 34px}.callout-shortcode .callout-shortcode-heading{font-size:24px}.callout-shortcode .img-wrap{margin-bottom:0}.callout-shortcode.has-img{min-height:170px;padding-left:175px}.callout-shortcode.has-img .img-wrap{position:absolute;left:29px;top:25px;width:119px}.callout-shortcode.hope.has-img{padding-left:170px}.callout-shortcode.hope>strong{padding:0}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap{width:109px}.callout-shortcode.hope .img-wrap:before{background-size:66%;bottom:-15px;height:42px;width:42px}}<\/style><div class=\"content\"><p>Alexis was still at St. Luke\u2019s undergoing <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/treatment\/chemotherapy\/\">chemotherapy<\/a> while planning our wedding. I\u2019d get off work and spend evenings by her side.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<p>An old friend of Alexis\u2019s officiated the wedding, and another friend offered to do her hair and makeup. This <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/resources\/support-groups\/\">inner circle of support<\/a> that Alexis chose to share this day with made it more magical. I even had a few friends gatecrash the event.<\/p>\n<p>I was delighted with the shots the photographer took of our wedding. It gave us the privilege to be happy after what Alexis had been through leading up to this day.<\/p>\n<p>Our videographer made a wedding video for us, starting with footage of us driving our scooters. They dimmed the lights, and the introduction was so sad \u2014 it rolled with statistics of how many people survive the first year after a mesothelioma diagnosis. Then the year after, and so on. <strong>It ended with saying Alexis was still alive because of being in love with me<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<h2>Find Support in the Face of a Diagnosis<\/h2>\n<p>If you saw something of yourself or a loved one in Christian\u2019s story, know you are not alone. The Mesothelioma Hope team can help you navigate the challenges of mesothelioma so you can live life as fully as possible.<\/p>\n<p><strong>We can help you:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Find a doctor to treat you (and not turn you away)<\/li>\n<li>Connect with support groups and a compassionate community<\/li>\n<li>Determine how to pay for treatment, even if you don\u2019t have insurance<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Contact our team anytime by calling <a href=\"tel:+18666088933\" title=\"Click to call (866) 608-8933\" class=\"in-content-tel-link\" data-ce-category=\"Click to Call\" data-ce-label=\"(866) 608-8933\">(866) 608-8933<\/a> or filling out our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mesotheliomahope.com\/about\/contact\/\">contact form<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A Houston-based musician fell hard for his now-wife, then had his heart broken by a devastating diagnosis. Today, even mesothelioma can\u2019t stop this love story.<\/span> Christian and Alexis Kidd have the kind of unbreakable bond that most people dream of. 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